Match: Sorry for the last minute change, we can just push lunch back to 3:30 or 4?
Cammy: Does it still count as lunch if the little old ladies at the next table are ordering supper at the same time?
Match: Well, we can be hobbits? Second Lunch. I do it all the time, except when it conflicts with my Pre-Dinner.
One of the things I appreciate about him is that he acts completely normal about food even though he's aware of my ED. I hate it when I feel like people constantly walk on eggshells about it. He never makes an issue of it, although he lets me call the shots if I'm not comfortable with what he suggests. Anywho, this exchange made me smile and I wanted to share. In this case, we decided to do breakfast instead, which is actually way less anxiety-inducing for me anyway.
Just a note to follow up my last post too. I was afraid I came across as naive when I mentioned the whole "spark" business. I guess I am just comparing this relationship to both my high school boyfriend (full on teen infatuation) and the little whatever I had with....I can't even remember what letter pseudonym I assigned him....earlier this year, which was pretty much infatuation without the excuse of being teenagers. With Match, I have a lot of comfortable but none of the infatuation. Which is why I'm confused about whether this should be a friends situation, or if this is actually healthier.
Who knows. But Tolkien references do make me smile. ;)
7 comments:
I like this:)
So cute. I would find something like that very endearing as well. :)
So cute :) I don't think you came across as naive with "the spark" issue. I think it's just one of those things that is different from person to person, or even different with age in the same person. I had full on infatuation with guys up until the age of 23. Then, something changed. Not sure what. I don't think it was ed-related because my ed started when I was 17... I've given up overthinking it :) I'm not even sure that infatuation is good for me. I have a really supportive, loving husband and if I don't want to jump him all the time, the way I did my high school boyfriend (too crude?), that's ok with me :)
Whatever happens between you and Match, Cammy, I'm glad you have a good friend in him.
Oooh that is so nice! It made ME smile too! :)
I agree with it being nice with other people being normal with the ability to veto. Two of my friends who I actually live near will help me out in social situations when they can see I'm struggling and its perfect as it doesn't draw attention to me or them or anything going on! Sooo good.
I don't think you're being naiive with spark issues, i think you're just thinking them through and i think its good to acknowledge thoughts, feelings and concerns so you CAN think them through :).
xo
I'm going to add my name to the list of people who think you didn't come across as naive with "the spark" issue. I'm also going to say that I don't think the spark matters. Right now you're watching this whole relationship unfold and, regardless of whether you want it to become a romantic relationship, it seems like it's going somewhere good. Maybe just ride the wave for now and worry later about whether you want Match as a good friend or a boyfriend.
At any rate, I'm glad that you've found someone with a sense of humour who treats you with respect!!
He sounds like a keeper, girl, whether it's in the friend sense or in the boyfriend sense. Feel it out. In time, you'll definitely know for sure. You're a smart one. :)
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