But then when I actually saw him, I didn't want to.
? ? ?
So I didn't.
I guess maybe this just represented a challenge to my black-and-white thinking. He is a very nice guy that treats me well and that I enjoy being around him, so I guess I will let it be what it is and enjoy whatever happens, right?
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Um, I'm just saying, but that's how I felt when my relationship with D started :)
Ambiguity is a challenge, but it's sometimes a challenge worth taking. I think Kim said it best a few posts ago when she said fireworks are one thing and enduring slow flame is another (of course I had to add my own flourish to her words, but you know...) I agree. I rarely feel the "butterflies" and "fireworks" I felt but my love for D is much deeper and is just as much a part of me as breathing. The book "Why We Love" should DEFINITELY be added to your reading list (not that you're in love-you would just enjoy it.)
Let me know if you want it-I'd be happy to send you my copy as I doubt I'll re-read it and media mail is cheap :)
That's great progress with your black and white thinking! I've been in your situation, and I tend to deal with relationships (okay, let's be honest, it's singular) with a pre-emptive strike. I have doubts, I leave. Looking back, I know it was the right decision, but this method also explains why I'm still single. ;)
Hey hunni,
It sounds like you're being a completely normal girl! This is good :) Scary being normal and frustrating at times but good :).
I'm just sooo glad that you're figuring things out as you go no matter what the outcomes are. I agree with Sarah that lots of the really deep love often starts this way... but we'll wait and see, there is no rush to figure it out one way or another, no rush to know :). You've got plenty of time Cammy and we'll be here to suppor tyou all the way!
*hugs*
love me
Yeah for challenging the black and white thinking!
I think with relationships, we often wind up feeling hurt when there are expectations. I've given up that philosophy and have just learned to go with the flow for a bit until I am ready for more than that.
Being treated well, having someone around you enjoy has its perks. So yes, enjoy that.
He does sound like a really great guy! I don't have any great advice in the dating department. I guess I would just say to do what is in your heart :)
Yea, I'm glad to hear you're not ending things with Match just yet. It seems like he has been a positive influence/support in your life when you've been going through some difficult transitions, and that is a pretty big deal.
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