Way, way sadder than I expected about ending my time with D. I have never had great experiences with dietitians in the past, and I'll 1) miss her as a person (she is badass) and 2) am also very unhopeful that I'll find another person offering the type of support and insight that is such a good match for my needs/personality.
At least I made it to my car before I cried.
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Today sucks. Got a call from my pastor that she's moving to TN. I made it off the phone before bawling.
And to think I just told my T this morning that I have no idea why I'm so reticent about caring for people. Blarg.
Oh c,
i'm sorry. :( i have had to, in the past, say goodbye to therapists or dieticians that i was so attached to, and that i really liked, and there's no getting around it - it's hard as hell, and hurts like a mo fo.
but i do believe in your new city, you could perhaps find someone who can help you...he/she may not be quite as awesome as she was, but you never know - don't shut out the possibility of finding someone who is almost as amazing.
hang in there. <3
aw, Cammy... I relate. I'm in the process of being about to end with my RD now too and sometimes I cry myself to sleep about it (really actually...). It's amazing, isn't it, the strength and power our feelings can have and how they can be so overwhelming. It's just really a sad, sad thing to go through. Maybe you can kinda keep in contact via e-mail with her a few times a year? Idk... just brainstorming ways to avoid real endings... yeah, this is just hard. I have nothing helpful to say, but I will say that I find saying good bye to my RD to be so, so painful too.... It's so sad, isn't it?
I'm so sorry for you. One of the suckier parts of being an academic is moving around a lot in your 20s, maybe early 30s. It can be so difficult to feel like it's even worth investing in relationships of all kinds when you know you are just going to be leaving. There's no way around how much it sucks when you form a good relationship with a provider, and feel like they have really helped you. But I am optimistic that you'll find some good people in new city. Hang in there!
That sounds really tough :( Sorry you had to leave her behind after forming such a good relationship. Any chance you can stay in touch via e-mail or Skype or something? I'm sure she would love to get updates abut how you're doing in your new city. I really hope you can find someone comparable there, it sounds like having a D you really connected with has been huge for you, recovery-wise. Good luck!
One thing I've noticed is that after having developed a strong relationship with one RD/getting to a pretty good [but not stable/done] part of recovery, it's been easier for me to work with other professionals.
No doubt my first RD was uniquely capable of putting up with my petulantly in denial crazy underfed self, but the RD I've found on campus [yay for freeness!] is good enough and because the framework for my recovery has been laid I'm much easier to work with. Try to remember what made your RD work so well with you, what worked for you and what did not, and tell a new person you work with these things.
And if that fails... phone sessions? I've not been able to find a replacement therapist and have gotten over my phone phobia enough to do weekly sessions with my same T.
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